''Loving the right person at the wrong time or having the wrong person when the time is right? ''
0r is it worse, finding out you love someone after that person walks out of your life?
then there is a whole list of heartbreaks and so called "love failures", relationships, sometimes even marriages that don't work out for the most bizzare and "un-understandable" reasons.....
for more irony , some think that letting go is one way of expressing how much they love that person {that perhaps if that love returns eventually, it was meant to be...}
and then, there's some, afraid to see the one they love, is actually being held by someone else.
Most relationships tend to fail not because of the absence of love, but because love is always present. It's just that one was being loved too much, and the other was being loved too little.
Something, quite a number of people end up learning the hard way. A very very tough way ..
Most often, we fall in love with the person we think we love, but to only discover that for them we are just for past times. While the one who truly loves us remains either your friend or just a stranger.
When some think of their past love; they may had viewed it as a failure; but when they find a new love, that so called failure becomes some sort of lesson, more of a teacher...
Saying "some" is an understatement, for its many of us who fall into the whirlpool of love and life, who eventually realise the above.
Is it right for someone to name it a game of love? for it doesn't really matter who won or who lost... What's important is that you know when to hold on and when to let go.
Yesterday, one of my best friends asked, how does it feel to be truly in love. At that instant, I realised, not much thought was actually given to that.
I guess, you know that you love someone when you want him or her to be happy, even if their happiness means that you're not apart of it. Even if it means, sometimes, that their happiness is of much greater importance of your own.
Everything happens for a reason and for its best.
If the person you love doesn't love you back, don't be afraid to love someone else again, for you'll never know unless you give it a try. You'll never truly love a person, unless you risk for their love; love strives in hurting.
If you don't get hurt, then you won't learn how to love. Love doesn't hurt all the time; though the hurting is there to test you, to help you grow.
then, on another note, don't rush it all...
Don't go looking for love. Don't find love, let love find you; -- that's why it's called falling in love[DUH!]
because we don't need to force ourself to love, we just fall.
but [yes, my favourite word...IN EVERY POST! hehe ] -- You cannot finish a book without closing the chapters. If you want to move on, then you have to leave the past as you turn the pages. Love is not destroyed by a single failure or won by a single caress.
but why is it that the greatest irony of love is letting go when you want to hold on, and holding on when you need to let go? You can never find the right person if you can never let it go of the wrong, but at the same time the moment you feel like letting go, you remember why you held on for so long. Sometimes you have to forget what you want and remember what you deserve.
To love is to risk rejection,
to live is to risk dying
and
to hope is to risk failure.
To reach for another is to risk involvement, to expose your feelings is to expose your true self. To love is to risk not being loved in return.
My point of view, defining love, is quite unreal, probably it's just a hypothesis, probably an imagination, but for some, including myself, it is that intangible "thinga-magica", that happens!
so in life :
Fall but do not stumble.
Be constant but not too persistent.
Share and never be unfair.
Understand and try not to demand.
Hurt but never keep the pain.
Love is supposed to be the most wonderful feeling. It should inspire you and give you joy and strength. But sometimes the things that give you joy can also hurt you in the end. Loving people means giving them the freedom; whom they choose to be and where they choose to go.
Loving someone means giving them the freedom to find their way, whether it leads towards you or away from you.
Love can be a painful risk. To love means that risk must be taken, no matter how scary or painful, for only then will you experience the fullness of humanity of what we call love.
If you're not ready to cry, if you're not ready to take the risk and if you're not ready to feel the pain, then you're not ready to fall in love.
~live~life~love~
